Navigating Christmas with a Heavy Heart
As the Christmas break approaches, I thought it was important to recognise that Christmas can be a challenging time, especially when you’re navigating the depths of grief; this may be for loved ones who are no longer with us or for those that are with us but whom you have a difficult relationship and don’t see.
With this in mind, here are my top tips for surviving Christmas.
1. Give Yourself Permission to Feel
It’s ok to feel a mix of emotions during Christmas. Allow yourself the space to grieve and miss them, even if it means shedding a few tears. Embracing your feelings is an essential part of the healing process.
2. Create New Traditions
Consider reshaping your Christmas traditions to better suit your current emotions. Whether it’s opting for a quiet dinner or spending time alone in reflection, adapting traditions can make the season more manageable.
3. Lean on Your Support System
Surround yourself with loved ones who understand and respect your grief and feelings. Share your feelings with them and let them be a source of comfort during this challenging time. You don’t have to face it alone.
4. Honour Your Loved One's Memory
Find meaningful ways to remember and honour the person you’ve lost. It could be lighting a candle, creating a memorial, or sharing stories about them. Keeping their memory alive can be a bittersweet but healing experience.
5. Set Boundaries
It’s crucial to prioritise your well-being. If attending certain events or gatherings feels overwhelming, don’t hesitate to set boundaries. Your loved ones will understand, and it’s essential to prioritise self-care.
6. Practice Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself. Grieving during the holidays is a unique challenge, and it’s okay if you don’t feel the festive spirit. Allow yourself the grace to navigate this season at your own pace.
7. Seek Professional Support
If the weight of grief feels unbearable, consider seeking the guidance of a mental health professional. They can provide valuable coping strategies and a safe space to express your emotions.
Remember, you’re not alone. Take each day as it comes and know that healing is a gradual process. Reach out when you need to and be gentle with yourself this Christmas.